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Many parents have co-dependency issues when dealing with children who have problems with substance abuse. They tend to feel as though they are the reason for their child’s behavior. They may try to overcompensate for this guilt with financial support or other behaviors that actually enable the child. When a parent is co-dependent there is usually enabling going on. Most parents want the best for their child and will do whatever it takes to help them along their journey in life. Let’s not misconstrue caring about a child and helping them succeed with co-dependency.

When someone is co-dependent on another individual they are not only trying to take care of that person but they are doing so to gratify a missing piece in themselves. Co-dependent individuals tend to ignore their own personal needs and focus on the needs of others. They may live vicariously through their child, basing their emotions on the emotions of their child. This becomes very unhealthy for both the parents and the child. Studies show that when a parent is co-dependent the child is twice as likely to display the same behavior later in his or her life. The child who is abusing a substance may also become co-dependent on the parent while they are actively using, becoming financially dependent and emotionally draining. There is some confusion on the definition or signs of co-dependency. Co-dependency can be defined as:

  • A lack of a relationship with one’s self. Having a poor understanding of one’s own emotions and needs.
  • A dependency on the external, they may try to take care of others and base their emotions on outside external fixes.
  • Lack of understand for what an individual is responsible for. Feeling as though they are responsible for other people’s actions and emotions. Being affected by other people’s emotions and actions in a negative way.
  • Excessive dependency on others at the expense of one’s self
  • A continuous pattern of putting aside the needs of one’s self to satisfy the needs of others

All of these signs of co-dependent behavior have a negative effect on a parent, or anyone who is co-dependent on another person. Parents who are co-dependent are not helping their child to deal with their problem with substance abuse, and in most situations are enabling the child. If action is not taken, the cycle of co-dependency will continue. Al-Anon is a fellowship of men and women whom have a close relationship with addicts or alcoholics but are not addicts themselves. Most individuals in Al-Anon struggle with co-dependency issues. This fellowship helps to teach parents and loved ones how to do the right thing while not being co-dependent and negatively affecting themselves.

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Our mission at The Hills Treatment Center is to offer a unique combination of educational and therapeutic drug and alcohol rehabilitation. In that spirit we present answers to some frequently asked questions. However, don’t stop here. Our knowledgeable and compassionate admissions specialists are available to speak with you personally 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

How do I know if someone is addicted to drugs or alcohol?
Diseases of drug and alcohol addiction are complex and impactful. We encourage you to speak with your physician, or refer to the symptoms checklists offered by respected agencies in the field of addiction research and treatment like The National Institute on Drug Abuse, or NIDA .
What drug and alcohol treatment choices do you offer?
At The Hills, we offer a wide variety of treatment choices ranging from residential drug and alcohol treatment to intensive outpatient treatment, each applying the latest and best addiction treatment therapies. Plus, at every level there are counseling and support groups from which to select to maximize the process of recovery.
Is detoxification a painful experience?
Not if you’re detoxing from drug or alcohol addiction in a residential setting at The Hills, where you’re given round the clock care and attention every step of the way, safe and secure in a private room with counselors, message therapists, and world class chefs to aide and advise you in comfort.
What if your detox program doesn’t work for my needs?
That’s not possible at The Hills Treatment Center because all of our treatment plans are personalized to specifically support the rehabilitation and recovery of each individual client.
Can I receive treatment for more than one addiction?
Yes. The Hills recognizes that many people suffer from multiple addictions compounded by mental and emotional health issues. Our Dual Diagnosis program addresses all of these compounding issues.
Won’t drug and alcohol treatment put me behind at school?
We understand how important it is to achieve your academic goals, but that will not be possible without addresses the challenges of addiction. Through our Young Adults program we will develop a rehabilitation schedule that allows you to continue your education.
What happens to me after detoxification is complete?
You are not left alone after drug or alcohol detox. We offer a myriad of counseling and educational programs to support your rehabilitation and recovery including Relapse Prevention, Sober Living and Sober Companions, Family Outreach, and New Lease on Life.
Who comprises your staff?
The staff here at The Hills is led by eminent addiction expert, Dr. Howard C. Samuels; columnist, published author, television talk-show guest on the leading edge of drug and alcohol treatment modalities. Our team of experienced professionals and paraprofessionals often know first – hand what drug and alcohol treatment and recovery are all about. Our team is here to assist and support you at all times.

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A guide to locating appropriate treatment, entering a rehab and more. Includes questions and answers, and a California Drug Rehab Guide.


• Family Involvement • Specific Drugs • Treatment Facilities • Financial Issues • Before Entering Rehab • After Drug Rehab • California Drug Rehab • Legal Issues

About Dr. Howard Samuels

Howard C. Samuels, PsyD is a leading drug and alcohol addiction expert. He is a licensed therapist with a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology with years of experience running two successful treatment centers, and is the founder of The Hills Treatment Center.

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